The Fear Of Walking Alone

The 33-year-old marketing executive Sarah Everard vanished while she was walking home in south London at about 9 pm on 3 March, and investigators searching for her have found human remains. Hundreds of women expressed their sadness over the news and shared their experiences of feeling a sense of fear when walking home alone.

The Tory MP Claire Coutinho said: “Walking late at night recently, I remember thinking I’d better look over my left shoulder as much as I’m looking over my right so I don’t strain my neck. And always with keys out.”

What happened to Sarah Everard has hit home hard for so many women because we make the calculations she did every day too. We take the longer, better-lit route, push the fear aside for the voice that says ‘don't be daft, you've every right to walk home alone at night and be safe’

— Kate McCann (@KateEMcCann) March 10, 2021

The Labour MP Alex Davies-Jones wrote: “We are told: ‘Don’t get too drunk you will be too vulnerable.’ ‘Put your keys between your fingers when walking alone.’ When will we start telling boys & men not to attack women?”

Even after all these years if I am out late at night on an isolated street & I hear a man’s footsteps behind me I automatically cross the road. It is the habit of a lifetime to try & keep safe. But it should not have to be like this #SarahEverard

— Diane Abbott MP (@HackneyAbbott) March 11, 2021

The Labour MP for Coventry North West, Taiwo Owatemi, said women were taught that it was not safe to walk alone “before we have even sat our GCSEs”. She added: “Every woman and girl deserves to live without fear of violence.”

Chilling to read experiences in the wake of Sarah Everard’s terrible death. Keys in hands, planning safe routes, shoes you can run in, talking loudly on phone – I’ve done all of this. It’s the sheer brain-space this vigilance takes. Imagine what it wd be like to be free of it.

— Julie Etchingham (@julie_etch) March 11, 2021

The singer Nadine Shah said she had been followed home “too many times to count”.

“Once I had to hide in a bush for over an hour until two men gave up looking for me. I could hear them plotting explicitly what they were going to do to me and laughing. The solution starts with respecting women,” she wrote.

For all those women who text their mates to let them know they got home safe,who wear flat shoes at night so they can run if they need,who have keys in their hands ready to use, it’s not your fault. It never is. So many of us have stories of being assaulted. It’s never our fault.

— Anna Yearley Carreira (@AnnaYearley) March 10, 2021

We have spent years being taught what we, as women, should do to keep ourselves safe. As 12-year-olds at an all-girls secondary school, we were given a specific lesson in how to avoid the attack. We were taught to carry pepper spray where ever we go, to sit near the bus driver, to choose brightly lit streets. We were each given a rape alarm.

These messages of personal safety are passed from woman to woman. They are well-intended and come from a place of care and love, but how come it is still so widely accepted in society that it is a woman’s responsibility to prevent an attack?

Look around and see the work being done to educate men against chauvinistic attitudes or aggressions? I’m sure the answer will be nill or minimalist.

What happened with Sarah Everard is each women’s worst nightmare. It’s time that as a society we address the attitudes, behaviour and violence that lie at the root of it.

It should not be luck that we make it home from a walk.

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