11 ways women knowingly or unknowingly kill their own relationship
If you’re in a relationship, you probably have some ideas about what makes it go wrong. Maybe your partner never lets you forget that they’re the boss or that they won’t let you do anything fun without expecting something in return. But what if we told you that these things aren’t just annoying habits of unappreciative partners? What if they were actually signs of sabotage? We’ve all had moments when we realize that our partner isn’t living up to their end of the bargain—whether it’s sharing chores equally or respecting our boundaries—and then what happens? We get angry and frustrated, but do we stop there? Or do we try harder than ever before to make things right again?
Following are some of the ways women kill their relationships.
1. By being so hard on yourself
- Stop being so hard on yourself.
- Don’t be too demanding of yourself.
- Don’t let your expectations of yourself get out of control, because that can lead to disappointment and frustration with your partner (and also make it harder for them).
- Be kinder to yourself when you make mistakes—it’s not easy getting back up after falling down, but it’s worth it!
2. Being dishonest with your partner about what you need
You may have heard that women are the ones who need to be more honest about what they want in a relationship. But if that’s true, then why do so many of us feel like we aren’t being heard? We’re afraid to ask for what we really need because we think it will be taken as an affront or rejection by our partner. But if you’re going to have any sort of healthy relationship with someone, honesty is key—so go ahead and be as transparent as possible!
Be willing to say no when necessary (rather than just letting things slide). If someone tries pressuring you into doing something that makes you uncomfortable or upset, tell them so and let them know how much those kinds of requests affect your feelings about the situation. This will help prevent miscommunication later down the line when things get heated between both parties involved in whatever disagreement there may be; plus it’ll also prevent hurt feelings on both sides!
Ask questions instead of making assumptions or judgments based on past experiences alone…
3. Being afraid to ask for what you want
One of the most common reasons women kill their own relationships is because they don’t ask for what they want. Women often feel uncomfortable asking for what they want, and men always find a way to get what they want or what is important to them. But here’s a thing, if you want your boyfriend/husband/partner/so on to be more involved in household chores, then don’t be afraid to say so! It may take some time before he’s willing enough with his schedule but once he gets there, it’ll make both of your lives easier!
4. Not being open to feedback and constructive criticism
Being not open to feedback and constructive criticism is another way women kill their relationships. It’s important for you stop doing this because without being open to feedback, you won’t be able to grow as a person or relationship partner.
It can be hard for some people to accept other people’s opinions about them, especially if those opinions are negative ones. However, if you want your relationships with others in general—and particularly with men—to improve over time then it’s essential that you listen carefully when someone gives you feedback on how they feel about something specific in your life (or lack thereof). This includes things like:
- What makes them feel most happy or annoying when interacting with you?
- How would we change ourselves so that we could better fulfill our partners’ wants and needs?
5. Holding on to unrealistic expectations of your partner and yourself
The next time you’re about to start an argument with your partner, take a step back and ask yourself: is this really worth it?
Is there something that I’m holding onto as an expectation of what my partner should be doing or not doing? Is this really going to make me happy?
It’s important not to hold onto unrealistic expectations of your partner and yourself. You need to be realistic about what you can expect from your partner and yourself. You cannot expect them (or even yourself) to always meet the standard set by society’s standards for relationships, which are constantly changing depending on who’s in power at any given moment in time. It may surprise you how many times we find ourselves disappointed by those closest to us because they don’t live up to our expectations—and then we often blame them for failing us when things don’t work out exactly how we hoped they would!
6. Living in the past
- Ask yourself whether you’re trying to change the past or live in the present
If you find yourself focusing on your partner’s mistakes, this is a clear sign that they are causing problems in your relationship. Instead of dwelling on what went wrong in their past and using it as an excuse for why they don’t deserve better (or even worse), try looking at things from another perspective. What would happen if we did something different? How can we make sure this doesn’t happen again? And most importantly: how do I want my life now?
If someone has made mistakes before and continues to make them over and over again, then it might be time for them to move out of your life completely – even if only temporarily. Don’t let anyone’s past affect how much happiness they get from being with us today!
7. Trying to control everything
- Don’t try to control everything.
- Don’t try to change your partner for the better, or for the worse.
- Don’t try to change the past in any way other than learning from it and moving forward with your life.
- And don’t even think about changing anyone else’s opinion or the world around you!
8. Trying to change your partner
- Don’t try to change your partner, because it won’t work anyway.
- Don’t try to change your partner, because it will make you unhappy.
- Don’t try to change your partner, because you will end up resenting them.
9. Lack of intimacy
When you find yourself in a relationship where one partner is not getting what they need from the other, it’s important to work together to make sure that both partners are satisfied with their levels of intimacy and sex life. If your partner is unhappy with their level of intimacy or sex life, they should be open about it so that you can address any issues together.
If your partner isn’t getting what they need from you (or vice versa), this could mean there are some problems within the relationship itself—either with communication or commitment issues. In order for things to change in a positive way, each person needs to take responsibility for his/her actions and start communicating honestly about these concerns instead of ignoring them until they explode into an argument later down the line (which often happens if something isn’t said).
10. Letting negativity take over your relationship, especially on social media
Social media can be a great way to connect with friends and family, but it’s important to remember that your relationship is not defined by social media. If you let negativity take over your relationship, especially on social media, you may be doing more harm than good.
It’s easy for people to get wrapped up in what they see online when they are trying too hard to look good or make sure everything aligns with their version of reality. That kind of thinking can lead them down a path where they get caught up in criticizing others who don’t share the same view as them—and this can cause problems in their own relationships!
Don’t let yourself get dragged down into negative conversations about other people’s relationships without checking first if those situations are actually going well for those involved before jumping into yours right away!
11. Not able to make time for fun and relaxation together
When you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day routine of life and forget about your partner. You may find yourself feeling like you have nothing in common or that there are no shared interests between the two of you. The truth is that if your relationship is healthy enough, these things will change eventually—but not if they aren’t addressed first.
In order for your relationship to thrive and grow stronger, try making time for fun together: go out dancing; take an impromptu road trip; watch a movie at home with popcorn (and maybe even some wine). These activities don’t need to involve expensive tickets or fancy dinners—they just need some spontaneity!
We hope you’ve found this list helpful in taking care of yourself and your relationship. Remember that relationships are hard, but they’re also worth fighting for! If you have any questions about how to take care of yourself in a healthy way, please feel free to reach out to us or comment down below. We’d love to help!