13 Women Share Advice They’d Offer To Their 16-Year-Old Selves

Most of us fantasise in some way about how our lives may have been different: if only we’d taken more chances with our careers if only we’d ditched the loser boyfriend sooner if only we’d relocated to another city before meeting the loser lover, if only..! We would have undone so many mistakes and changed so many decisions if we had the ability to go back in time. Women on Reddit share advice they’d offer to their 16-year-old selves, and it’s really poignant. Let’s go through them.

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1. “You’re not fat. You’re pretty. You know what you’re doing is wrong, but you’ll get better, be strong. Don’t rush into having sex, it’s okay to not be interested in it yet. You’re not a loser. Also, enjoy your life and your friends. You’ll never have this much free time.” – alimacallenotna

2. “Don’t let others dictate your worth. Know who you are and don’t let boys’ opinion of you dictate how you feel about yourself.” – Administrative_Bug26

3. “Take more care of yourself. I was way too nice to people. I would do things for people who wouldn’t do the same for me (mentally draining).” – S-With-A-g

5. “Don’t hate your mom, control your anger, make friends, socialize.” – Leviosa_notleviousaa

6. “Don’t rush it. Can’t hurry love or life. Everything will happen in their perfect time. Go break some rules and enjoy your youth! (just don’t get arrested lol) Grades don’t define you as a student nor a person. Strive to build good relationship with everyone (friends or strangers, you’ll learn a lot).” – buttercough_

7. “They’re not your friends. Don’t dumb yourself down (or change who you are) to fit in. Learn how to actually stand up for yourself, say no, and know that you are worth love, friendship and respect just as you are.” – devil_lish

8. “Break up with him. Dating an older guy isn’t as cool as you think and he’s not actually a nice person.” – OkConstruction9857

10. “People do like you & aren’t judging you. Don’t be so scared of everyone.” – dragonfly-1001

11. “Your life is yours to make! Study and get the grades you are capable of. Make goals and don’t be afraid of failure. Failure is normal and doesn’t make you a loser! Sometimes life will go in a direction you aren’t prepared for, and that’s OK. Look at each decision as an avenue to explore and not a path you are sentenced to be on for life. You are enough as you are.”- Harriethair

12. “Any grown adult man hanging out with high school kids and says you’re so “mature for your age” is a fucking predator and too emotionally immature to get a woman his own age.” – CantChooseAFandom69

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