Ask Shakti: Your Safe Space to Ask Anything

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Question 1:

“Dear Auntie, I am 32, unmarried, and honestly… tired. Every family function feels like a battlefield. Relatives keep asking, ‘When are you getting married?’ as if my worth is tied to a wedding date. I love my career, I live independently, and yet, I feel small under their constant judgement. Sometimes I even wonder if something really is wrong with me. How do I deal with this without breaking down or lashing out?”

Answer:

My dear, let me tell you this straight: there is nothing wrong with you.

What is wrong is the script society keeps handing women—that by a certain age you must be a wife, a mother, or else you’re incomplete. That script is outdated, dusty, and does not deserve a place in your beautiful, evolving life.

You are not “lagging behind.” You are living your life on your terms. That is courage, not failure.

Now, how to handle the nosy questions?

• Arm yourself with humour. When an aunty asks, “When are you getting married?” reply with, “I’m still shortlisting applications do you want to help with HR?” Smile and move on.
• Set boundaries. It is not rude to say, “I’m happy with where I am in life. Let’s talk about something else.”
• Protect your peace. If family functions feel like landmines, limit your exposure. You don’t owe everyone your presence.

And most importantly, never internalize their words. Their curiosity is about their discomfort, not your reality.

Here’s the truth: A woman who can stand tall, live independently, and choose her path is already whole. Marriage may come, or it may not but you are not waiting to be completed. You already are.

Hold that head high, my love. You are not “behind.” You are exactly where you need to be.

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Question 2:

“Dear Realshepower, I’ve been married for five years. On paper, my husband is a good man, no abuse, no cheating, he provides for the family. But I feel… invisible. He doesn’t listen, doesn’t ask how my day was, and when I try to talk, he says I’m being ‘too emotional.’ I feel lonelier in this marriage than I did when I was single. Is this normal? What should I do?”

Answer:

Loneliness inside a marriage is one of the heaviest silences a woman carries. And no, my dear, it’s not “normal” to feel unseen every day. Marriage is not only about duties, it’s also about connection.

Here’s the thing: many men are taught to “provide” but not to emotionally “show up.” That doesn’t mean you must shrink.

• Communicate clearly. Tell him, without blame: “When you don’t ask about my day, I feel invisible.”
• Seek small changes, not miracles. Sometimes men need baby steps. A 10-minute daily check-in is a good start.
• Don’t erase yourself. Fill your life with friends, hobbies, and support that nourish you.

And remember: you’re not “too emotional.” You’re human. Wanting love and attention is not weakness it’s strength. You deserve to be cherished, not tolerated 🙂

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Question 3:

“Hey guys, I’ve been seeing someone for six months. He says he likes me, but he avoids commitment. He doesn’t introduce me to his friends or family, and sometimes disappears for days. Yet, when we’re together, he’s sweet and attentive. I keep hoping he’ll change, but I feel stuck in limbo. Am I being too impatient?”

Answer:

Ah, this is not impatience. This is your intuition speaking. A man who wants you in his future will not hide you in his present.

Affection without consistency is not love, it’s convenience.

• Watch actions, not words. Sweetness is easy; showing up daily is hard. Which one does he choose?
• Stop waiting for “maybe.” If six months in, you’re still guessing, then you already have your answer.
• Set a boundary. Tell him clearly: “I need clarity. If you’re not ready, I will not waste my time.”

You deserve love that doesn’t make you question your worth. Don’t let crumbs keep you starving when you deserve a feast.

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Disclaimer: The advice shared here is based on compassion and experience, it is not a substitute for professional counseling, medical, or legal advice where required.

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